On the eve of our twins second birthday, I am feeling incredibly blessed. It wasn’t long ago that we were told we may never have children of our own and to be sitting here now with one having just started nursery school and two others in bed enjoying an afternoon nap, I have to pinch myself to know this isn’t actually a dream. I have been blessed three times and I don’t know what I did to deserve these angels who I am lucky enough to call my children.
With those emotions in the forefront of my mind, I wanted to tell you more about the bumpy road to parenting we faced and invite you to share your own story of fertility (or anything else) over in the new Members Area at Love from Leyla. I would love to hear your story, but for now – here’s mine.
If you’re reading this, then you could be one of the hundreds of thousands of people around the world that are battling with infertility as I was just 5 years ago. Talking about IVF is not something that comes naturally to me as for many years, it’s a subject that my husband and I have limited to our most private conversations through fear of attracting well-meaning sympathy from people with no experience of the topic. I felt so isolated, I didn’t know where to turn and I really believe that with the right psychological and emotional support I could have had a much more positive experience of assisted fertility, which is what I am hoping to provide for here at Love from Leyla.
All I was certain of was that I wanted to be a mummy and I knew that children were a part of my story on this earth. I could feel in my heart that I would never have been complete without the blessings of sticky fingers around my neck and jammy handprints on my walls. Both my husband and I had that dream for many years before the universe answered our wish through assisted fertility and like the love that I have for my children now, the sheer force of my feelings back then propelled me to research everything I could to learn about improving our chances of conception, and if I can help anyone else at the same life-stage as we were back then, then that’s what I would love to do here. I’ll tell you about our journey now.
Ste and I met in 2006. I was a fun filled, optimistic and ambitious graduate with nothing but the present in my mind and when the universe conspired for our paths to cross, the magic we felt in those early months made me think more about the future and how much I wanted Ste to be a part of it. Within months we were madly in love and spent just under two years traveling the world. We spent time in Asia, Indonesia, Malaysia and lived in Australia for a year, returning to England to be reunited with our families and then to decide on the next stage in our adventure. As time went on, we enjoyed a wonderful wedding day bought our first home and inevitably of course, began trying for a baby.
I sometimes wish I could have met more people with the same challenge as us. To talk about our situation and offer each other support and positivity would have made a huge difference to me back then, rather than bottling up my emotions and only have each other to talk to. Here at Love from Leyla, I would like to be the person that’s available to talk to YOU if you are experiencing fertility issues. There are so many techniques that I learned about that improved our chances of conception and I will share them with you on a one-one basis through my Coaching Service or through the posts and articles that will be coming soon. Never lose hope. Being the family of five that we are today has made all of the troubles in the past worthwhile and if I can share some of our success with you, I would love to try.